Apple Pies and Photography

  • The First Response

You’re probably thinking “This is going to be her weirdest post to date!” … and you may be right. You know you’re strange when you’re helping your sister bake an apple pie for Thanksgiving and simultaneously thinking of blog post ideas. Before I get into to it, let me explain that EVERYTHING about this situation was strange. Anyone in my family would tell you that Katelyn and baking are two things that don’t go together! I was honestly only in the kitchen because Emy (my sister) asked me to help her and I was counting this as quality “sister time”. I cut the apples, melted the sugar, kneaded the dough…

I was doing some pretty legit baking moves! I’m still proud of myself! …. And during this intense process of following intricate instructions and measuring flour out perfectly, I had a revelation!!! Here we are, working hard and paying attention to every detail to make sure this pie turns out perfectly…. and yet somebody is bound to make a comment about the final product once it hits the table. Maybe it’s “too runny” or not sweet enough… or maybe it’s just “not like grandma’s”! This happens all of the time. Family and friends work hard to prepare a meal and the first thing that happens at the dinner table is a guest grabs the salt. After all of that hard work, that has to make the chef’s heart sink a little.

I was thinking about all of this while we were making the pie and I realized that this happens in photography…. ALL. THE. TIME!!! Photographers, how many times have we shown our clients the back of the camera, only to receive the “Oh I look fat” comment? It’s hard to hear… because deep down, we’re hoping for an “Oh my gosh!!! That’s US?!!!” comment. We want comments that reassure us that we’re talented…. that we can truly capture magical images!!

I totally get it. As soon as I see a picture of myself, I look for my flaws.  It’s a sad part of human nature but it does happen on a regular basis. I’ve realized that when the first thing a client mentions is something about not liking the way they look, that’s not a jab at me. That is their own insecurity and while it’s our job to make them look the best they possibly can, we can’t take those comments too personally. Anyone that cooks experiences this same feeling when someone says “oh, this needs salt!” as soon as they take the first bite!

Hearing that time and time again can make you want to lose confidence in your work but I just want to encourage you not to let it get to you! Realize that even though those aren’t the responses we long for, they aren’t a direct attack on you. People are just being human and they don’t even realize what they are saying! So don’t lose heart and don’t lose your passion over a few small comments! Whenever you’re feeling discouraged, just remember that you’re not alone! This happens to the best of us and the rest of us! This isn’t just a photography issue, it’s an issue for ANY creative!! We are supposed to do our BEST… to pose like champs… to make our clients feel 100% at ease…. and even when we do everything right, it doesn’t change the fact that our client has NEVER loved her arms. So when those comments come, just take a deep breath and carry on!! Don’t let them steal your joy. Learn from them and move on! You’ll actually be a better photographer because if it!

Ok, Never in my life did I think I could find a way to relate photography to cooking but it happened!!! Have an amazing tuesday everyone! :)

xoxo, Katelyn
8 Comments Photography
  1. Meghan reply

    This is so encouraging and exactly what I needed to hear today! Thank you!

  2. Megan Kelsey reply

    I’ve totally had to learn and accept this truth this past year… I don’t take it personally anymore and just try to learn from it and get better at posing from a more flattering angle! Even though this business is so personal and it’s our “artwork,” it is also a business… so it’s about finding that balance! Love the apple pie comparison :)

  3. ashley link reply

    you’re so cute! i try to stay far away from the kitchen too! haha. i don’t have much patience for it!

  4. Marquette reply

    That’s a perfect comparison! I needed to read this right now, thank you! I did a session recently and I knew ahead of time of some of the wife’s insecurities and worked hard to get flattering shots that didn’t emphasize those, but I found out after that there were additional insecurities I didn’t know about, and she doesn’t want any photo with her legs showing up online. I was bummed because, of course, those were some of my best shots and the ones I worked hardest for. It makes me sad that this beautiful woman (she’s absolutely gorgeous) doesn’t have any clue how amazing she is. I’ve had to remind myself to not take it personally. I love what you said there, “Don’t let them steal your joy.” I love the photos still, and maybe someday she’ll be able to look back at them and love them too.

  5. Heather reply

    Thanks for that, its always nice to hear encouraging words!!!

  6. Karin reply

    This is so good to hear today. Just a few days ago, I had given a client their family fall photo shoot, and the first response was “I thought you were going to get rid of my wrinkles? I wanted a softer face.” it just made my heart sink. so it’s good to hear that it’s not really my fault!!

  7. Nicole reply

    So true. Going through a stage like this right now and trying to teach myself in some scenarios theres nothing I can do personally, as good of a job as I’ve done. As per your example, no matter how good a photo of them is, if they’re not happy with their weight they’re not happy about their weight.

  8. imgrum reply

    The cake looks so good that I want a recipe :D Beautiful photos as always

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