• A Story of Loss and Hope

In just a little over a week, it’s hard to believe, but it will have been 6 months since James’ birthday. Life while pregnant with James was extremely slow. Everyday seemed like a week and every week seemed like a month. After he was born, life seemed to pick up speed. Work began again and we filled our days off with fun trips and adventures. The grief, sadness and reality of what we lived through really set in for me in July and August. However, in the midst of pain, there was so much joy. If there is anything I have learned over these last few months, it is that joy and pain can exist simultaneously and I’m thankful for that!

When we look back at pictures and remember our time with baby James, I feel both joy and sadness. I’m thankful that we saved so much of that season but I’m so sad that he isn’t here. I cherish those images and I’m so grateful that we took so many. However, we also tried to save as much of him as we could through video as well.

Our good friend Tyler Herrinton has been filming business projects and personal projects for us for years… but the project that we have been working on recently is by far the most important video of our entire life. We filmed our life with James while he was still alive inside of me. Ty and Ash came to the hospital the day he was born and filmed our families getting to meet him. Tyler filmed James’ entire memorial service and recently, Tyler came over and we filmed his story from beginning to end. We’re in the process of creating an entire documentary style video sharing his story and today we wanted to show you a preview. We’re so excited to finish this project and have a beautiful video that shares everything about James’ life. Enjoy this preview of all that’s to come! :)

xoxo, Katelyn
69 Comments Baby James, Personal
  1. Elizabeth reply

    This made my heart so beyond happy! God always has a plan and he blesses us with challenges to make us stronger and you guys are SO strong!! Congrats to your sweet and beautiful family!! ❤️❤️

  2. Terri reply

    What fantastic news!

  3. Dori Overman reply

    You don’t know me, but I feel like I know you and that we are friends. I am a photographer and a NICU nurse. Your story is so beautiful! Thankful for your family and your life. Congratulations on your new baby! I know you can’t wait to see James again someday!

  4. Loren reply

    Tears of sadness followed by tears of joy! Congratulations, Aslop Family!!!!! The world is dancing with you five right now!!! ❤️

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  7. Traci K reply

    I am so full of joy for you Michael and Evy and James <3 wish you many blessings and healthy happy pregnancy!

  8. Wendy reply

    Thank you both for sharing your story with us. And congratulations on your growing family.

    In Christ,

    ~ Wendy

  9. Renee reply

    Oh Katelyn,
    I am so happy for you all! What a beautiful commemoration for James. What a loved little boy. All of my congratulations and blessing over your bundle of joy coming!!

  10. Kate reply

    God bless you and your beautiful soul for telling your story. And congratulations I’m so happy for you all.

  11. Jill Gum reply

    Sending all the love in the world (and so many prayers!) to you all. Thank you SO MUCH for sharing.

  12. Heidi reply

    I am one of many, I am sure, who you don’t know but who feel like we know you, who have followed your story with James and wept and prayed with you through it all. I was crying the whole time I watched this video and then when I got to the end I just started bawling. God is so good, and your faith is such a testimony to his goodness, and I am so so so happy for the new life he is growing in you. Hugs and prayers to all FOUR of you.

  13. Kristina W. reply

    Crying over here with missing James for you, but I’m so happy that you’re going to have the joy of baby #3 soon!

  14. Nancy reply

    The stories you have shared along your sad journey will help others going through the same thing. You are truly an inspiration! So happy for your amazing news & praying for you all.

  15. Rebecca Swingle reply

    Thank you for sharing James’ life and yours. And blessed congratulations to baby no. 3!

  16. Kayle reply

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey. It is beautiful and sad and moving and so full of love. I’m sitting here watching my baby James Michael eating his lunch and being reminded of what a strong name he has and praying for your James Michael in heaven ❤️

  17. Angela reply

    Amazing story, so sorry for your lose

  18. Leah Martin reply

    Dear Katelyn,
    I just want to thank you and your family for sharing James’ story. Please convey to your friend Tyler what a beautiful labor or love he did. I find this particularly touching as I am a labor and delivery nurse. Throughout my 39 year career is was revealed to be that one of my callings is working with families in a labor and delivery setting, to help them through this part of their lives. I am currently at Inova Alexandria Hospital and act as the perinatal loss coordinator. I will tell you that in the beginning I never wanted to take care of loss patients but what I learned was I was blocking my blessings. I just want you to know that I love you and your family. We have met in the past. I am Craig Lilly’s Aunt Janie. Thank you for opening your heart and sharing.
    Aunt Janie

  19. Sarah C Bradshaw reply

    Ohhhhhh, Katelyn. Praising God for every single part of this story, and so thankful for your willingness to share so freely with others. Love you friend! And excited for you and this new season!!

  20. Victoria Greer reply

    I am crying tears of compassion and sympathy and then the end of the video brought tears of joy! Congratulations!! I am so happy God is blessing you and Michael with another sweet baby! What a great surprise ending to this video!

  21. Rhonda Lee reply

    I just love you Katelyn! I am so sorry you two have had to bear the unbearable. I know you love God and understand we may understand now, but will some day. I know that your story, your lives, your love for God and James will be an inspiration to many for years to come. God Bless You and give you Peace and Comfort! I loved the preview and I can’t wait to see the finished product.

  22. Diane Taylor reply

    I am so glad I watched until the end!!! Praying for you Kaitlyn and Michael and Evy – sending you love from Baltimore MD!!!!!

  23. JAMIE H. reply

    Bless you and your family! What a sweet story of strength and love!

  24. Stephanie reply

    Your story is so inspiring and is a true testament to what God can do in our lives if we let Him lead in our lives! God never promised us life will be easy, but He did promise us a life full of blessings, and so I hope through your journey, especially with another baby on the way, that you continue to allow God to move and work in your lives! Thank you for sharing your journey with all of us! God Bless you and your growing family!

  25. Mandy reply

    I have tears of happiness in my eyes over your beautiful news Katelyn and Michael!!. So so happy for you both. You have impacted and will continue to impact so many of us by your amazing testimony of James’ sweet, short life. Your journey of faith is so inspiring and I am so thankful to be able to watch this new season unfold and cheer you on from the sidelines.

  26. Alyssa Parker reply

    Cried through this entire video, sad tears and then happy tears! Such a precious way to share sweet James’ story. You guys are such a blessing to many. Thank you for sharing your story! Congratulations! I am so, so happy for you guys!

  27. Sara Touchet reply

    ALL THE HAPPY TEARS!!!! I’m love your story and your faithfulness! I am so excited for you guy! Baby Alsop #3!!!

  28. Kate Martin reply

    I can’t even begin to express how moving this video was. God has just provided such a grace in your life to be able to share such a powerful story! I am also so very excited for your wonderful wonderful news. Big big prayers being sent your way!

  29. Tanya Begg reply

    Katelyn, I have been following you for quite a while now and you inspire me in more ways than one, this has just added to the admiration I have for you and your family xx

    Your strength is amazing and so is your story, thank you for sharing xxoo


  30. tierney reply

    What a beautiful way to cherish James, Evie, and this baby! I have been following your story and you are so strong and an inspiration. I know lots of people will find hope in your words. Prayers for a healthy happy baby.

  31. Stephanie Stewart reply

    What a beautiful tribute to baby James! And wishing you all of the joy of your new season!!! So very excited for you! This video gave me chills and tears and happy tears, sending love and prayers to you all! ✨

  32. Carter cundiff reply

    Katelyn and Michael,

    I’m overjoyed to hear the news! I’ve been thinking about you all and this warms my heart that y’all get the chance to grow your family in yet another way. If anyone deserves such a sweet blessing right now, it’s you two! I can only imagine how remarkable the final video will be for baby James and his story <3

  33. Jennifer Strode reply

    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. At 13 weeks we were told that our baby would be born with Down syndrome. We named our daughter LiliAnna . after Matthew 6. If God will clothe the lilies of the field with such slender then how much more will he take care of his children. Lili is 11 now and the joy of our life. Thank you for your story and the value of ALL life you share.

  34. Kyla reply

    Congratulations Alsop family! Your story, your example of God’s redemption and love and hope, and this incredible news – I am praising God so big! He is so good! All the time :)

  35. Megan reply

    So excited for y’all! Your story is so inspirational and I couldn’t be more happy for y’all and this new season! XOXO

  36. Sheri Nicholson reply

    Oh, blessings and love to all of you. Thank you for sharing your lives with all of us. Watching and following your story especially watching Miss Evy, with her many faces and zest of discovery. Holding you and your family in my heart and prayers.

  37. Sara Wilson reply

    This is amazing and I am so happy for you! I cannot wait to see the entire film about your precious James. You have already helped so many people and you will continue to help so many others.

  38. Jenny O’Neill reply

    So many tears and so much admiration, followed by such joy!! You two have such a moving story of parenthood and it’s continuing to grow and evolve. I have a sweet baby James, who’s about to be 4, who was born with half a heart and has survived a pediatric stroke. He’s the strongest person I know ❤️.
    A heartfelt Congratulations to your family!!

  39. Laura reply

    Bless you and your family, thank you for sharing your story of your beautiful angel baby James.

  40. Lisa Edwards reply

    Tyler what a great job you did. Fabulous story to give others hope st such a sad time.

  41. Kate reply

    This video is so raw, so emotional and hope filled. So excited for you both. Congratulations!!!!

  42. Sarah reply

    I don’t have children but this story and your courage and commitment to “love him while you have him” touched my heart. There is so much loss in this world and I will always remember your family and James as a signal that I can be brave while facing profound grief. Thank you for sharing. ❤️

  43. Tania Wicks reply

    Oh Katelyn and Michael, I have so many thoughts and feeling about your situation. Too many to even share but I will say you guys are God fearing and brave! May He continue to walk with you year after year as you remember and celebrate James!! What a remarkable little boy. I can’t wait to meet him in heaven one day. You guys totally stopped me in my tracks when you said “and we have one on the way” what incredibly joyful news. I know you may feel terrified during this pregnancy but I am praying for you guys as are so many around the world. May you rejoice and have a PEACEFUL healthy whole pregnancy. congratulations on the best news. Love you guys dearly xxxx Tania xxxx

  44. Melanie reply

    Katelyn and Michael,

    I have followed James’ story from the very moment you announced your pregnancy. This video preview and announcement of Baby #3 is absolutely beautiful — I had tears running down my face by the end, and while you do not know me, I rarely ever shed tears. Thank you for sharing your lives so beautifully and authentically. You are helping so many people find courage on their darkest days. Wishing you and yours all the best as your family continues to grow!


  45. Mariann Kovats reply

    I am so excited for all of you, Katelyn , Michael and Evy! Congratulations! Wishing you all the best, good health, wonderful, happy time growing that little baby inside and I can’t wait to meet him/her and see Evy as Big Sister.
    Your video about James will be fantastic, the preview had my tears come out, but I am so happy you did that movie and I am really looking forward to watch it. This preview and the happy announcement was just absolutely beautiful!

  46. Rebekah Hoyt reply

    You guys continue to bless me and blow me away with your faith, your perseverance, and your deep trust in Jesus. I love that you are using this platform to share James’ life story and God’s goodness and purpose through this life and through your journey. And I am THRILLED to hear of Baby #3! I’ll be praying for you so much!

  47. Stacie Marshall reply

    Oh my goodness, I’m sobbing buckets! So excited for your next season of joy!

  48. Kaylee reply

    I LOVE this! Congrats on your new little one and I’m excited to see this new avenue that God has given you to share your story. Your faithfulness to God in the midst of James’ circumstances was such an encouragement to me during my pregnancy. Praying for you in this new season of joy!

  49. Melanie reply

    Oh Katelyn! I am crying tears of joy that you and your family have this beautiful video and photo record of James, his life, and your experiences with him. Five years ago, my 3rd baby (out of 5) died at birth at 40 weeks. It was a surprise in the moment, and we hadn’t done a maternity shoot, and only had our cell phones for cameras at the hospital. In part because of the emergency situation, we don’t have many photos, and no videos. What a sweet, sweet blessing it is to have this record! I have thought about doing bereavement photography or birth photography for “rainbow babies” because I understand how precious that can be. These glimpses into your experiences bring back sweet memories. I appreciate you sharing this and including your vulnerable moments. It helps me to remember the raw emotion I felt, and I don’t want to ever fully forget that. I also got pregnant again soon after losing her, and can empathize with the whirlwind of emotions that can accompany that unique experience. I pray for you and your family that you will have peace and acceptance through this pregnancy, and have the continuing support you need. Much love to you and your family.

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    very good. Thank you for sharing!

  51. Rici reply

    Bless your souls! how you find that incredible strength to share and share is beyond me. But I admire you all the more for it! Love you guys!!

  52. Kaitlin reply

    I am in tears watching this today. On August 18th, 2014 I went for a routine ultrasound of my twin girls at 28 weeks. My husband was out of town. My two older daughters were supposed to come with me, but, the night before I had a very compelling feeling that they should not be there. My older sister graciously said she would come down to watch them.

    I didn’t realize anything was wrong. I had felt them Analise and Adelin moving only the day before. But when the ultrasound tech stepped out to get the midwife, I knew something was wrong. My second daughter had a heart defect so I assumed this was going to be the case before the midwife came back in, look at the babies herself, and turned to me and said “I’m so sorry but there is no longer a heart beat…”

    I barely remember calling my husband who was 3 hours away for work, calling my sister who was watching my girls, or how/why I drove myself home. The next 3 days where a blur before I was admitted to delivery the girls. Unfortunately during their birth there were many complications and I ended up hemorrhaging, in cardiac arrest and had to return to the OR where afterwards I spent time in the ICU.

    I never got to see my girls. And my husband elected not to. It has taken the last 4 years for me to begin to accept this in my heart…You are an incredibly strong woman and are blessed with a husband who will stand by you. I feel honored to have seen your video and look forward to following your story and seeing your daughter and baby Asop…

  53. Maria reply

    Wow- what an amazing testimony. Thank you for being willing to share and encourage others through such a difficult time. Praying for so much peace during your pregnancy with baby #3!

  54. Lyndley reply

    Hi guys,
    Ok so first when i watched the video this morning I was balling like a lil kid that got in trouble and sent to the naughty corner! For someone who doesn’t have kids and is very awkward around them I was a total mess! And secondly congrats on your new bub to be! thats awesome news :) Hope everything goes perfectly for you!
    From one of your All Accessers Down Under :)

  55. Beth reply

    Thank you for sharing your story. My nephew was born sleeping at 32 weeks so this video really got me. God bless your family. <3

  56. Suzanne reply

    Through sadness and tears – God always knows what is best for us. I’m so excited to hear about the new pregnancy. You have no idea how many lives you touch with your stories. Keep up the excellent job!

  57. Sabrina Fields reply

    Oh you guys!!! I’m sobbing through the entire video and so thrilled for your sweet third baby to be on the way! God is so incredibly good and this rainbow baby is such a miracle (just like your other two little ones are)! xoxo

  58. Carol reply

    Oh Katelyn! This is so beautiful! Made me cry! Cant wait to see the full version. So very proud of you! Had to help a friend deliver a 12 week old fetal demise recently and was so hard to be a part of but so beautiful at same time. Love yall!

  59. Delcy Deaver reply

    God Bless you, you are a very strong woman
    Love every bit of Baby James story.
    Congratulations on new baby

  60. Shea Cutler reply

    Hello Katelyn and Michael,
    My heart goes out to you, and I have deep empathy. Two years ago, after a genetic test, we found out our baby girl had Trisomy 18. The world is never the same after hearing that your baby will not live with you in this world. Alexis Hope was with us for only three precious hours, but we are grateful for that time, and even more grateful that we will be with her in heaven. Huge hugs and shared tears to you both.

  61. Rebekah Carter reply

    I rarely cry other than out of frustration but I am a big teary mess watching this. Y’all are so sweet & I am so happy for you. Congratulations!

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    The story is so sweet. I feel moving when reading your blog. Love the way you write much.

  63. Anita White reply

    To the Alsop Family,
    I cannot begin to express our appreciation, support, and encouragement for this most beautiful of videos you are literally pouring your lives into. May our Great and Awesome God continue to richly bless you and hold you close.
    I believe it is the strongest of trees that he sends the heaviest of winds to, for He knows the roots are deep, and the tree will thrive and grow stronger.

  64. Kathryn Farley reply

    I know we have never met, but I follow your stories via the blog, and have been thinking about you and your sweet family during this difficult time. I so appreciate your candor and bravery in sharing your story. Your faith is an inspiration to me, and I know many others! Thank you!

  65. Heather Brannock reply

    I’m so excited to hear you are expecting! I know it has been a very rough season for you.

  66. Leslie Proffitt reply

    Wow! A beautiful love story! Congratulations on baby 3!!!

  67. Yosmaira Ochoa reply

    Just got a chance to see your video. I’m truly sorry for your loss. My condolences.

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  69. Elisabeth Tracy reply

    From one who recently learned my baby might have a life-threatening condition, I was so touched by your video above. Thank you for sharing.

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