When you think about it, normally, this part of the day is the only time that photographers interact directly with the parents for an extended period of time. Normally the parents are who have invested in the photography and so this is a VERY important interaction!!!
Our goal on the wedding day is to love and serve everyone well. We especially want to make sure we take care of the parents of our couple!! When you think about it, parents aren’t normally celebrated very often at weddings because all of the focus is on the couple. The parents are often the ones who paid for the day and who helped mold and shape their son or daughter into who they are and I think they deserve to be recognized for that. The mother of the bride is often one of the main planners of the day and yet she doesn’t even get a SPECIAL DANCE!! Parents should be celebrated and I often wish we had done more to celebrate our parents and their marriages on our wedding day.
I realize that there are a lot of broken marriages at weddings as well. We see so many parents who are divorced or separated and I know that that is very common and we try to be very sensitive to those situations. However, whenever there are ANY couples who are together and present at family formals, we try to take a portrait of JUST the two of them!! No bride, no groom, just their parents! This could be step parents, parents, significant others …. if it’s obvious that they are together, we try our best to give them a portrait of their own! We normally say something like “It’s not every day that you two get this dressed up!! You need a portrait!” I would say 9 times out of 10, the parents are surprised and taken back by the attention being directed towards them for a second!! They normally thank us and say “Well I didn’t think WE were going to get a portrait!!! Thank you!” This is probably the easiest way to love and serve the parents of your couples!!
So next time you’re photographing a wedding, take 10 seconds and love on the parents and give them a “Parent Portrait”!! It will make their day!!!!